- Be respectful. Try to be respectful, and even kind, to the other person. It can be easy to hurl hurtful comments when emotions run high, but if you are still trying to decide whether to stay together or divorce being kind becomes more important.
- Take all the time you need. Making the decision to divorce should not be taken lightly. It is an important and difficult decision. Time away from the other person can help remind you of the good times, as well as the bad, and give you some perspective. Take as much time as you need to think and reflect about your marriage.
- Likewise, do not pressure the other person into reaching a conclusion. He or she, like you, is trying to discover who he or she is and what he or she wants. Pressuring him or her will not help the situation and may lead to a result opposite to the one you intended.
- Be alone for awhile. Try to avoid finding comfort in another person's arms, even if it temporarily makes you feel better. It is probably likely that your emotions are running wild and involving another person could ensnare them. You might have a difficult time sorting out your true feelings. It is probably better to be on your own.
- Try to understand the balance between dependence and independence. It is important for a marriage for you to be independent while still being dependent on the other person. Both spouses should be free to be themselves. Explore whether the balance between being dependent and independent causes the trouble in your marriage.
- Lean on your friends and family during this emotional time. You may be inclined to keep your marital problems to yourself, but a marital separation is an emotional burden to heavy for anyone to carry by him or herself. So be open with the people that care about you and tell them how they can help you. Usually people do want to help.
- Keep the kids out of it. It is important that the kids understand that it is not their fault. They should not be used as a weapon by either spouse against the other. They should know that both parents love them and that it is not wrong to love either parent. Make sure to love them no matter what.
Thursday, 05 July 2012 00:00
Seven Tips on How to Survive a Painful Marriage Separation
Written by Super UserIn Snohomish County, nearly 60% of marriages end in divorce. That statistic is pretty scary for married couples. Many couples when confronted with marital problems agree to a separation hoping that time apart will bring them closer together. While a separation can be beneficial to a marriage, it can also be extremely painful and difficult. Here are some tips on how to survive a separation.
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